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Ways of handing, loving and dating a married man

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Guidance for being in a relationship with a married man

You might not have chosen to fall in love with a married but there are times when even the most intelligent ladies can’t withhold themselves. It can be painful to date a married man and can be good as well. This article, however, does not intend to judge anyone but to give you tips on what you need to expect and how to handle it.

Below is my advice and things you need not forget.

  1. Regardless of what he says, know that his family will always be his first priority.
  2. If he lied to you at the beginning that he wasn’t married, you have to consider whether he is someone you can trust.
  3. Have your own life just like he has his own life. Do not sacrifice everything for him, go on dates and socialize with other men. Since he is not giving up everything for you, you shouldn’t give up everything for him either.
  4. If he happens to divorce his wife for you then the relationship will change. There will be no room for fun and games.
  5. Get something out of the relationship. Let him support you financially. Make sure you’re benefiting and the relationship is worth your time.
  6. Know that whatever you’re doing is risky and be honest to yourself.
  7. Know that he will never leave his wife for you.
  8. Never let your relationship with him hinder you from seeing other people. Regardless of what he says he is still having sex with his wife.

If you are in love with a married man, take note of the following

Never sacrifice yourself for him

If you want to find happiness, then think and act the way men do. Men will never put their relationships first and that’s the reason why they tend to be happier than women. Women always pay too much attention to a man they meet and their entire lives will depend on the man. After meeting someone who sweeps them off their feet they will forget all their plans and put them on hold.

It’s not good even if the guy is not married. Otherwise, if he is then you have just jumped into the direct fire because you are giving yourself up to someone who doesn’t belong to you.

Control your emotions and if the man is lying to you then you should consider and know if the relationship is worth your time or not.

Leverage your relationship

Know if the relationship is worth your time. If he does everything for you and supports you financially, pay your bills or has bought you home then it’s worth your time.

Be honest with yourself

Be truthful to yourself. There is a high chance he has been dating many women over the years if he is married and you don’t see any sign of him leaving his wife. This pattern is always common and when a man has it then he has a tendency of cheating on different ladies and dumps them.

It’s true that a man will only take advantage of you if you allow him. It’s therefore up to you to take action to avoid being taken advantage of.

Why Dating Divorced Men is great

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I have had great experiences dating divorced men as an expert in dating and a single woman.

There is a high chance of women interacting with quite a number of divorced men as they grow older than they did in their 20’s.

Despite the fact that people still discriminate divorced men, there are reasons below why dating them can be great.

  1. Men who have separated from their previous marriages always feel like they need to reinvent things.

Men naturally solve and fix problems. They always want to be successful at anything. Their ego can’t allow them to fail.  They always feel this way mostly after a failed marriage and when getting into a new relationship.

I have encountered such incidences and most men have shared with me that they desire to marry again in the near future and “make things right this time.” The divorced men I have dated agreed that they regret not treating their spouses well and wished they had been romantic and complemented them. We as ladies are the ones who benefit from those lessons since there are quite a number of divorced men outside here who have acknowledged their mistakes and are working on them in preparation for the next relationship.

  1. They comprehend well the behind the scenes features of a relationship

Women find their way faster into relationships than men. Men take their time and frequently mature and grow up. I trust that it’s through marriage that men learn how to be responsible, know what women want and how to consider others before themselves. I appreciate all the things divorced men once did to me. Men who have been married before are well conversant with the little things, that is what I have discovered.

They can do things that men who have never married find hard to do. They understand well how they should take care of a woman.

Divorced men frequently have youngsters.

Dating divorced men with youngsters is the best thing ever.

Almost all my relationships didn’t work in my early 20’s because I decided not to have my own children. It is clear to me that most men wanted children and it’s something I comprehended and respected. The pressure to have children with divorced men decreased because they already have children and that’s why I loved dating them. I also discovered that men with youngsters love deeply. Just watching how they play and interact with their kids can make you fall for them. Their love is unconditional.

Dating divorced men with children is highly recommended especially for you all single mothers.  Men with youngsters understand your daily routine since they know and have the same life experiences. So, regardless of whether you are riding solo or you’re a single mom, just know that dating a divorced man is the best and wonderful experience ever.

How to Help Your Children Get Through a Divorce

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When a divorce happens, everyone is affected. Not only is a relationship coming to an end, but it also means having to deal with the fallout of how it will affect your children. Children will deal with their parents’ divorce in different ways. Of course, their reactions will vary depending on their ages, personality, maturity level, and the circumstances behind the divorce. Overall, however, it’s expected that one of the initial reactions for a child being told their parents are getting a divorce is shock. It can be a stressful time for them, so it’s important to know how to talk to them and help get them through the process of your divorce.

Let’s take a look at some insightful tips that will assist you in helping to get your children through a divorce.

When it Comes to Breaking the News

Breaking the news that you and your partner are going to get a divorce is definitely not going to be an easy thing. But once you’ve finalized your plans to split up, you’ll need to sit your children down and tell them. It’s best to have both parents present for this conversation. It’s also best to leave blame and feelings of anger or guilt out of it. That will only upset your children all the more. The divorce discussion should be catered to your children’s ages, fitting their maturity and temperament. And most importantly, you must tell them that it’s not their fault. Children need reassurance that they are in no way the cause of their parents splitting up. Encourage your children to ask the two of you questions and be open and honest in your responses.

Being Prepared to Handle the Reactions

You children will react in different ways, and sometimes, they may not even react right away to the news of a divorce. Just be sure to tell your children that you recognize and care about their feelings and are there to reassure and comfort them. If they don’t give you a reaction right away, let them know it’s okay to deal with the news in their own time and when they’re ready to talk to you about it, you’ll be there. Amidst the reactions, you’ll also need to be prepared for a wave of questions that may come up such as being asked who they will live with and if they will have to move away.

Helping to Cope with Consistency and Reassurance

It’s normal for everyone within the family to mourn the loss of their once seemingly normal family life. Of course, you and your children will adapt over time, but it’s important to reassure your children that things are going to be okay. Encourage honesty with each other and be sure to legitimize their feelings. Consistency is also a vital key to ensuring that your children get through the divorce okay and can continue on with their normal daily routine. Be consistent with how you treat and interact with your children. Be aware of any behavioral changes, especially in older children, as the stress of a parents’ divorce can lead to risky behaviors like drug and alcohol use.

Don’t Fight in Front of Your Children

If your children are continuously exposed to negativity, arguing, screaming, and unresolved conflict, this can not only stress them out, but place a very heavy burden upon their shoulders as well. If you’re constantly arguing in front of your children, this could have a negative impact upon their views of future relationships. So, it’s important to work out the differences between you and your partner away from your children and perhaps through talking through a counselor or mediator instead.

Adjustments Will be Key

Obviously, there are going to be new living arrangements once you and your partner finalize your divorce. And where your children are going to be living is a huge decision to make. Living arrangements should be handled gradually to allow your children to properly adjust to the impending changes they’ll be facing such as possible having to move away and start at a new school. Make sure your children have plenty of time to adjust to not only dealing with their parents not being together any longer, but also to the way their lives will change as well.

The most important thing to remember when having to break the news of a divorce to your children is to just be there for them. Both of you are still their parents, and they will look to you for support and strength in getting through what will be a difficult time for the entire family.

Listening To Your Higher Self

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In the midst of all the responsibilities and activities of modern daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of your higher self. This is especially true if you’re the one who always takes care of everybody else, plus you’re working, too. Life can just be so busy! Connecting with your higher self needs to be a priority in your daily routine.

When you connect with your higher self, you fully tap into your potential. You become everything you’re capable of becoming and more. It’s part of your spirit, too. It’s that voice within you that helps guide your intuition and lets you know when something doesn’t feel quite right. Your higher self can recognize deceitfulness and can attract honesty and authenticity into your life.

Is your higher self trying to reach out to you? Here are seven signs to watch for!

  1. You feel like you should meditate. If you’re feeling like beginning a meditation routine or increasing the time you spend meditating, chances are it’s because your higher self is trying to get your attention. Meditation can help those of us who suffer from depression, anxiety, and stress, and also connects us with higher realms. Even I have trouble sometimes finding enough time to meditate, even though I know I need to. Meditating is a mindful practice. It’s one of the many ways that I connect with my higher self. You can do it, too.
  2. You keep seeing the same numbers. Repeating numbers carry energy. You could be seeing these numbers on a store receipt, on your bedside clock, or on the license plates of cars in traffic. If you keep seeing the same number or group of numbers over and over, your higher self certainly is trying to reach out to you.
  3. You want to evaluate your relationships. To connect with your higher self, you need to surround yourself with like-minded people. This helps raise your energy vibration. Surrounding yourself with people on a different path causes their energy to distract your energy. You have to cut people like this out of your life! And try not to be sad if it comes to that. Everyone walks their own paths. If people are no longer on the same vibration as you are, you’ll all be better off if you find their own new tribe. Embrace the changes on your amazing life path.
  4. You crave alone time. If you’re feeling like you need to spend more time on your own, your higher self is definitely trying to get your attention. As you begin connecting more closely, you’ll start to understand that the outside world can’t always elicit positivity within your soul. And that’s okay! You need time to refresh, to regenerate, and to connect with your angels and spirit guides. Your soul needs time for peace and reflection. Solitude is very welcome and very beneficial!
  5. You feel more compassion and love. More than ever before, you’ll feel more compassion and love. You’ll also be able to let go of negative thought processes and fearful thoughts. Your higher self will give you reminders of how magical the world truly can be. It will also remind you that compassion and love will always prevail over apathy and hate.
  6. You’re having more frequent and more vivid dreams. Connecting with your higher self causes dreams to increase in both their frequency and in their brilliance. Your deceased loved ones may use your dreams to try to communicate with you. Your current life path may be the focus of your dreams. Every dream means something. Sometimes we must break them down to discover their meaning.
  7. You’re manifesting miracles. Connecting to your higher self allows you to bring to fruition what you manifest. Now you’re no longer bound by limiting beliefs. You’ll instead begin experiencing miracles in special circumstances. You’ll also draw to you what you focus on. You’ll create your own new reality through your intentions and your thoughts.

All that’s left for you to do now is to focus more mindfully on your higher self!

Battling During Divorce

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Doing battle during a divorce won’t necessarily end with you getting you what you wanted. In fact, if you do battle in an irrational way, you may end up with nothing at all.

People may draw proverbial lines in the sand regarding what they consider worth fighting over during a divorce. But as in most things in life, we live and learn, so  what you chose to battle for in your divorce may seem silly in retrospect.

When fighting during a divorce, people often feel like they’re being dragged through the mud for months, or even years. It may feel like it will never end. Almost everything can cause a battle during a divorce—who will be responsible to pay off the credit cards? Who will get the kids for the holidays?—the list seems endless. So, it’s up to you to figure out what you want and how you plan to approach the situation should the hostility begin to grow.

Here are some tips to help you learn how to pick your divorce battles in a mindful way.

Don’t beat yourself up when you feel frustration during the process. Divorce is messy. It’s filled with  emotions you wouldn’t wish even on your worst enemy. Even if it seems you’re understanding what’s happening, you may still feel confusion and panic. That’s totally normal. Things will be weird and confusing at times.

You can choose your divorce battles mindfully, so you’ll be able to see the big-picture view with minimal stress. Doing this will require you to be brutally honest with yourself. When you do this, you should be able to answer these questions: Am I battling over something that’s essential? Do my dependents and I require this for our safety or well-being?

Answering truthfully will help you understand what things you feel are non-negotiable when you choose which battles to wage. Everyone’s situations are different, and it’s up to you to discern what’s truly worth your time and emotional energy to battle for. Things worth battling for likely include savings, alimony, fair division of debt, child support, spousal support, and protection orders, if any sort of endangerment has been involved.

What You’re Fighting For

Divorces can drag on due to the division of the types of assets that don’t have anything to do with money. Legal battles can drag on if couples fight over sentimental items or over things that they’d just like to have. Battles like this may not have anything to do with the items; it may just be an attempt to make yourself feel better.

It’s important for you to understand the line dividing the “nice to have” items from the “must have for survival” items. This will help you in determining what you’re willing to spend negotiating for them in terms of time, energy and money.

Why You’re Fighting

You may feel anger during the process of divorce, and  choose to project those feelings onto your spouse. This may make you feel like you need to “get back” at them. You’ll find yourself soliciting advice on how you can make your ex pay for the hurt they’ve caused. It’s important instead to process those emotions and separate them from the legal aspects of your divorce. If your spouse is making unreasonable demands, you need to realize that they may doing this, too, whether they know they are or not.

You won’t be able to control how your spouse behaves during the process of divorce. If you find yourself placing demands on your partner—demands that you might be able to negotiate in a calmer and more rational manner—it may not hurt to analyze the approach and the ability it has to make the divorce process go smoother and faster.

Impact of Divorce Battles

It is important to remember that there are no “winners” in a divorce. Divorce cases can drag on for years, with nothing to show for it but drained bank accounts, cleared 401ks, and stresses on you and your kids that might never be relieved.

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t stick up for yourself. But remember, before you begin the legal, financial and emotional battle of divorce, you need to be honest with yourself and think about what it is you truly need for survival, what is important to you, what’s best for your dependents, and how to act so you don’t have regrets in the future.

If you’re drained and broke after the divorce, how can you start the new chapter in your life mindfully, without being weighted down by indignation and hurt? You need to acknowledge the balance of advocating for yourself and knowing when to give up the control that doesn’t exist anymore.

It’s critical to be honest with yourself, kind to yourself, and mindful of the new chapter in your life that you can look forward to once your divorce journey comes to an end. Let that guide you how to spend your time, your money, and your emotional energy. Who knows—you may not really care about that new furniture very much after all!

Are You Too Needy?

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While it’s fine to test boundaries and expectations at the beginning of a new relationship, be aware that acting overly needy can kill a relationship. Even something as insignificant as calling or texting repeatedly during the work day is considered to be “needy” behavior by some people.

There’s certainly nothing wrong with showing some level of vulnerability in a relationship, especially if you’re with somebody you want to stay with long-term. But vulnerability has to be a two-way street. Relationships can only work if both partners are able to rely on each other, and if the balance of power is relatively equal. When one person or the other acts too clingy or needy or clingy, the relationship can’t last.

Some people assume that dating someone a few years older than themselves will help avoid clingy behavior, as older people would be more experienced. But this is not always the case.

Here are some ways you can avoid appearing too needy or clingy, and avoid being the relationship killer.

Be mature. Treat your partner the way you expect to be treated. Show respect. Set mutually acceptable boundaries regarding physical contact when you’re together and calls and texts when you’re apart, and respect them.

Give room to breathe. If you’re having issues with a partner who isn’t a great communicator, then try striking when the proverbial iron is cold. You’re more likely to have a successful discussion if the atmosphere is relaxed and you’re both feeling less angry and regressed. In other words, just because you feel like you need to talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to right away. Important conversations will be more successful if you’re both  open to interacting. And if the other person needs some space, do what you can to give it.

Look at your past. If you’re in love and are acting needy, consider your family history, which may include a past hurt that’s being triggered because you’re entering into an intimate relationship. The other person can’t heal your past hurts. Only you can do that.

Watch for mental health cues. Anxiety and depression are more common than most people realize. Both can interfere with healthy and stable thought patterns. Both can damage your self-esteem, and both can make you act needy. But there’s hope; both can be successfully treated. Seeking professional help in these cases can only serve to help you in your relationship.

The root of problem could lie with the other person. Some relationship issues are created by just one person in the relationship. If your partner is a narcissist, you may be made to feel like you don’t matter. Or maybe your partner is just not that into you, so it’s time to end the relationship. Facing the facts can be hard, but it’s usually better than feeling continually tortured in your relationship.

Abuse is never okay. Any sort of abuse in a relationship, whether it’s verbal, emotional, physical or sexual, is unacceptable. If your partner is abusing you, you need to find safety and get help. Your neediness could be the result of dependence, which gives your partner a terrible level of power over you. If you find yourself in a situation like this, you probably will require some form of outside help. Don’t hesitate to seek it.

There is some good news in all of this. Most clinginess and neediness is just a minor annoyance. It isn’t life-threatening. If you are in a toxic or abusive relationship, by all means, get out of it. But neediness may simply be a burden that your partner isn’t equipped to handle, even if he or she is otherwise more or less “normal.”

If you’re the needy one and you desire to save your relationship, you need to realize that you’re expressing your possessiveness is killing the relationship. Seek appropriate professional help to ensure that you’re guided back onto the right track, and can start working to save your relationship.

Don’t hesitate to do the work. Give your partner space, if that’s what needed. You should be able to work things out!

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Living Alone After Divorce: Bliss? Really?

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You may be scared about living alone again as you’re facing your divorce, but you’ll soon learn that living alone again involves some amazing simple pleasures.

When I moved out of “our” house during my divorce proceedings, it was my first time living alone after 18 years of marriage. I wasn’t scared. I was terrified.

I’d never bought or even rented a place to live on my own. I was constantly concerned for my safety. I couldn’t even think about how I would deal with simple home maintenance and repairs. And how was I going to pay for all of that?

My parents had very traditional, “old-school” values and ideas about marriage. The very thought of talking with my father about living with my boyfriend after college gave me chills. It was a conversation I felt like I’d do anything to avoid.

Less appealing than that conversation was the prospect of planning and coordinating a wedding large enough to accommodate all my parents’ friends and family. This would involve stomping all over my parents’ expectations, moods and feelings, as our ideas of what the wedding should be were as different as night and day. Never mind what it would all cost.

So when we graduated college at 22 years old, my boyfriend and I packed up our dorm rooms, moved to the city in the next state over where he’d secured an entry-level job, and had a courthouse wedding.

Problem solved, right?

After all, what woman hasn’t talked with her friends about how important college dating is? College dating that would, of course, lead to marriage immediately after college graduation, in other words, the M.R.S. degree.

Looking back now, I’ve come to realize how I limited myself by not taking some time after college to build my confidence and learn how to tackle the challenges of adulting. This also deprived me of the opportunity to live on my own, and to learn how to savor the bliss of doing that. In short, even though I was in my mid-40s, I’d never experienced the pleasures of living on my own.

I’ve since come to appreciate those pleasures. Below are 8 of the simplest ones:

  1. Your pet’s slobbery and loving attention is all aimed at you when you come home.
  2. All of the hot water in the water heater is for your shower.
  3. You won’t trip over sweaty work-out clothes and socks on the floor.
  4. You don’t have to smell Axe body spray all over your house.
  5. Goodbye, Man Cave. Hello, She-Shed.
  6. You will have enough silence to sit and peruse the new issue of Cosmopolitan. Twice.
  7. Both closets and the whole master bath are now yours.
  8. Tonight’s dinner menu: One quart of Belgian Chocolate Häagen-Dazs ice cream. Yes, right out of the carton. Don’t judge, you know you want it.

Have you come to appreciate the simple pleasures that accompany living alone?

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Genuine Healing After Divorce

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While going through divorce, people have feelings across the spectrum, or even beyond it. Some people feel rage and anger. Some express hate while others feel numb and indifferent.

Whatever you may be feeling as you process the emotions of your divorce, here are some things you can do to move past the confusing emotions and open yourself to the process of genuine healing.

  • The legal process is not therapeutic. Most people retain lawyers as quickly as they can when the prospect of divorce looms. This can give some sense of peace and accomplishment. Attorneys have a way of soothing anxiety and building confidence with their legal jargon filled with terms like “financial punishment” and “sizable settlement.” It’s easy to focus on this boost of confidence if you feel insecure. But lawyers come with a significant price tag, and the legal process can also serve to increase anger and pain. True peace can only be found within. A lawyer can’t obtain it for you.
  • Let go of the past. This takes lots of practice. Early on in the process, you may need to remind yourself to do this as often as hourly. You need to stop being the person you once were. You will have to find a way to forgive your ex and yourself. As you work through your process letting go, you will find that you’re increasingly able to embrace the present and plan for the possibilities that the future holds.
  • Be grateful. Your ex may be a source of significant stress to you, and you may wish that you’d never even met. But you need to find a way to recognize the positive things your spouse brought into your life. Even during the toughest times, it’s possible for you to be grateful for things. Tough times provide you with the chance to practice being patient and compassionate. They help you learn how to communicate properly.
  • Plan a separation ceremony. Find a way to plan this event with your ex. Exchange vows in which you release each other. Express your desire to treat each other with respect. Commit to cooperate as you parent and support your kids.
  • Celebrate going solo. Whether you choose a party, an intimate gathering or a personal meditative ceremony, take the opportunity to make and express a new commitment to you and your own sense of well-being. Give yourself permission to make a fresh start and to move forward.
  • Form a new type relationship with your ex. You and your spouse aren’t lifetime partners anymore. You aren’t housemates, and your finances aren’t bound together. It’s time for you to forge a new relationship. It may involve co-parenting. It can be as friendly or distant as you want it to be. But you still may need to work together. Set appropriate new boundaries and effective ways to communicate as you move forward.
  • Build new traditions. Upholding important family rituals can be difficult, if not impossible, after a divorce. Losing those traditions can increase feelings of insecurity. So instead of trying to fill the gaps, try to start new traditions instead. If Christmas brunch used to be your ex’s time to work their kitchen magic, try instead to go out to a restaurant. If you have children, be sure to include them as you make your plans. Be as creative as you can in coming up with the new traditions.
  • Take care of yourself. Make sure that you’re eating well, exercising regularly and getting enough sleep. Beyond that, make sure you’re being good to yourself. Curl up with a book, go get a manicure or massage, or go see a movie with some friends. Listen to what your body is telling you, and nourish your soul. This process will help heal your wounds.

A healthy healing process requires patience and time. But it promises you an inner peace that will be all your own. You may even find that you move past feeling indifferent towards your ex, and begin feeling a kind regard instead.

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Four Steps to Rebuild Love

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Most couples build their marriage on a strong foundation of love which binds them together. As the years pass and the outside pressures increase, some couples begin to question whether they’re still in love, wondering when and why their intense feelings disappeared.

Some couples who feel that way may conclude that separation and divorce is their only option. Others hope that their love might be able to be restored, if they are both willing to work on the relation. Such work will certainly involve a restoration of that loving foundation that bound them together in the first place.

Most couples attempting to save a marriage focus on the stresses and conflicts in the marriage, rather than working on restoring the emotional bond and the feelings of love that they used to share.

But resolving conflict is far less important than rebuilding love in any attempt to save a marriage. Conflicts can easily be resolved when there’s already a foundation of love in place. Therefore, the only sensible approach is to focus on returning the couple to the place of deep love and care for each another. Once they accomplish this, they can start trying to resolve the conflicts in the relationship. Resolving conflicts is certainly important, but love should always be the top priority.

Steps to Rebuilding Love

This may be a difficult exercise, but think back to the beginning of your relationship with your spouse. Try to remember what it was about your spouse that made you fall in love. Identifying the origin of your feelings of affection and love for your spouse will serve to help you begin rebuilding that love.

If one spouse is always taking and the other is always giving, the foundation of love that the marriage was built on is going to suffer. Just as with a personal bank account, it’s not possible to spend all of your money and then expect to find money there when you go to check your balance. You have to make a deposit to replenish the available supply. Love in a marriage works in a similar way. You can’t constantly make demands and take, but still expect the love to grow and thrive unless you are nourishing and growing it in some way.

It is possible for love in a marriage to last a lifetime. You need to avoid taking more than you give, as doing this will over-stress your love. If you feel an absence of love in your marriage and you desire to rebuild your foundation of love, here are four things you can do to begin that process.

  1. Make a plan. Commit to recreating the love in your marriage, and then think of ways you can work to sustain it.

Your plan should consist of giving love to help replenish it, just like adding money would refill that drained bank account. Come up with an actionable plan to get love back on the right track.

Love will either grow, or it will wither and die. This is mostly based on how significant of an investment the spouses are willing to make.

  1. Break bad habits. Identify the negative, love-destroying habits you’ve developed, and do whatever you can to destroy those habits.

Set in place a plan of action. Communicate with your spouse about those habits and behaviors. Think of new, positive behaviors you can both engage in to replace the bad ones, and help you rebuild your emotional bonds and connections between the two of you.

  1. Treat your spouse kindly. Make a commitment to always treat your spouse lovingly. Work to make this second nature. More than likely, your actions will motivate your spouse to do the same thing in return. Giving and receiving love is a proven method to fall back in love with your spouse.
  2. Meet your spouse’s emotional needs. This could be a two-part step. If you don’t already know what your spouse’s emotional needs are, you’ll have to figure that out first. Then you need to learn how to best meet those needs. If you really don’t have a clue about what those needs are, here are some things you could do to help you figure that out.
  • Plan evening meals together, alone. If this means you have to give the kids dinner and put them to bed before you have your dinner, do it. It’s worth it. Eating together, alone, will provide calm atmosphere for you to discuss important adult issues, problems and resolutions with no distractions.
  • Make it a priority to spend uninterrupted time together. Start with about 30 minutes. During this time you could hold hands and talk together about your day. Or could discuss what things you appreciate about each other. Or you could make some plans to go on a special date together. Whatever you decide to do during this time, make sure it focus on you and your spouse.
  • Reach out to each other during your work day. Send a text or an email, or make a quick phone call. Even though you may be busy, be sure you’re maintaining your closeness and your connection.
  • Keep up with your spouse’s appointments and important occasions. Whether it’s a meeting at work or a doctor’s appointment, keep track of what they’re doing and express interest in how things went. Spouses often forget that this can be an easy way to show love and to bond with each other.
  • Start and end each day with an expression of physical affection. Give a hug or a kiss. Or both. It’s possible to take just a moment or two no matter how rushed you may be and make a physical connection at the start and end of each day.

It is possible to rebuild love in a faltering marriage. The couple must be willing to slow down and to invest the time and effort required. Love can thrive again.